Tuesday, December 27, 2011

An opportunity to kick start 2012

Step up and make it a powerful and fulfilling 2012!
It's that time again ...will you be making New Year's Resolutions? 


Or are you like many well-intentioned people who have decided it's a losing battle and not worth the aggravation? 

New Year's Resolutions are always filled with good intentions and hope for a better life this year than we had last year. But what happens when February rolls around and our good intentions have become a source of frustration and self-recrimination? We give up and believe that we can never change and feel that our lives will stay stuck in a rut while people around us seem to be able to succeed.

However if you live in the South Lakes and Furness Peninsula region help is at hand.
Life Coaching and life planning sessions! 

For help with all this positive personal change stuff Eric Barker (life and business coach) is offering a 2 hour face to face life coaching session for only £35.00 during the month of January to help you kick start your year.

Life coaching can really help to clarify what you really want or need in your personal lives and stimulates you to start taking powerful action steps towards your goals.

To take up Eric’s offer you can contact him on:

Eric is an accredited life coach and has works with numerous individuals and groups over the last six years to help them achieve significant positive change in their work and personal lives.

The sessions are completely confidential !

This is a great chance to make 2011 a year of powerful positive change!

Don’t miss out Book your session now!.

Thursday, December 22, 2011

Why writing down your goals is a powerful process.


"Vision is specific. It is goal-oriented and undeniably tenacious. Vision investigates and delineates what is currently practiced and seeks to tweak it to produce qualitative results. Vision personified walks in the Spirit of Excellence, aggravates the status quo, and frustrates any attempt to perpetuate mediocre performance." Marcus Mason (National Writing project)



For many of us, accomplishing what we dream of is a challenge mainly because we fail to properly articulate WHAT it is we truly want! More damaging to our chance of success is the sad truth that our dreams cannot become our reality if they stay locked inside our head and we NEVER act upon them.

However once you put something in writing it becomes much more concrete and tangible than what we keep in our heads making our  plans easier to stick to and succeed at.

Several benefits come out of the writing process:


ATTENTION AND AFFIRMATION
* When you write down your ideas and goals your mind will automatically focus your full attention on them promoting more creative thinking and motivation for taking action.
ACCOUNTABILITY
* In addition you will be forced to clarify what you're doing and in some instances what you want others to do. As long as an idea remains in our heads, it's not made accountable as we don't usually subject our ideas to rigorous scrutiny when they're just random or even re occurring thoughts. In contrast when we write out the idea, goal or plan its strengths and weaknesses begin to surface as we consider the idea more critically.
ACCESSIBILITY
* Since most thoughts for the future are often complex or uncertain, a written version of your plan enables you to organise and illustrate your points with more detail and therefore explain much more simply to others what you intend to do and what you are trying to achieve.
AIDE- MEMOIR
* Recorded words create a "memorial of truth" which enables you to be constantly reminded of the ideas and goals and desired outcomes and this in turn will renew determination to complete the task or project with a sure and steady step.


And the Lord answered me, and said, "Write the vision, and make it plain upon tablets, that he may run that readeth it."

—Habakkuk 2:1-3, King James Bible

Got an idea goal or dream for your life? 
Write it down and see it take shape!

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

The sound of disappointment...

Disappointment makes you want to give up...
when things go wrong and out lives are impacted by difficulty and pain....
when we don't get what we wanted or what we expected...
when people break their promises and let us down...
when we cant even live up to our own expectations........we get disappointed!


Which reminds me of a song....

Here comes that sinking feeling

Nobody hurts me like you do.

You cut into me like a poison dart.
Creep into my sleep at night.
Break into my dreams and tear them
apart.

Here comes that sinking feeling.

Have you ever felt the sound of
disappointment?
It pounds in your head like hammer
blows.
Comes on gentle and smiling.
And it likes to leave a scar before it goes.

here comes that sinking feeling.... 

Lennox/Stewart (the Eurythmics)


So how can we overcome that sinking feeling?


When our hopes and dreams are fully anchored in a confident expectation of good things from the hand of God we have the perfect antidote for the disappointment of the past and the fear of the future.

Where have you anchored your hopes and dreams?

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Gods Blueprint


“In the Fingerprint of God lies the Blueprint for your Life”

We are made in God’s image, His original idea , His creative thought, His unique design, formed by His perfect hand and bearing His hallmark........God’s workmanship for a specific purpose which has already been prepared beforehand so that we can if we choose walk in it.


Ours is not the quest to leave our mark, But to discover His mark in us”


So life is not about achieving your personal best but rather about fulfilling the unique purpose you were created to accomplish in God’s universe.
Connecting with that Purpose allows you to pursue your calling in life and to plan for intentional living in every area of your life—living on purpose--now and in the years to come.
Three things you need to do in order to connect with your God given destiny.
1.    Know God personally through faith in Jesus Christ.
God invites us to know Him, to be in relationship with Him, to be His friends.
2.     Desire  and seek after Gods will for your life above all else:
Gods will is good, pleasing and perfect why would we not want to give ourselves to do it?
3.    Ask Godwhat am I made for”?
God does not want us to miss our calling and Jesus himself said that we should ask in order to receive. Expect God to answer this question in various ways
·         Through the Bible
·         Through the gentle promptings of the Holy Spirit
·         Through the advice and guidance of other mature Christians
·         Through the deep desires of your heart as you seek Him.
·         Through an understanding of your personality type and your natural and spiritual gifting that enable you to do certain things really well and to be fruitful in particular areas of work and ministry.

You will never grasp the full meaning of your life apart from the context of what God is up to in the world. You were God’s idea. So if you want to know your purpose in life, you must first recognize that it’s not really your purpose you seek, but God’s purpose for you.

Monday, December 19, 2011

Life planning for the New Year?

The New Year is almost upon us and it’s a great chance to think about starting to develop a life plan to help you focus on what’s really important and to increase your effectiveness and overall success.

So if you are thinking of making positive changes to your life in 2012 here are three questions to get your grey matter working on some powerful goals.

1.       What is one change you could make to your work/life that would make the biggest positive difference?
a.       What is the cost of you not doing anything about this
b.      What is it about this situation that needs to be different?

2.        What three things are you doing that do not serve or support you and those closest to you?
a.        How could you turn this around immediately?
b.       What is the value of your current attitude?

3.        What would you try now if you knew you couldn’t fail and the outcome would be good for you and your loved ones?
a.        How could you make this goal more specific or measurable? 



Friday, December 16, 2011























10 WAYS TO SHARPEN YOUR FOCUS

·   Focus on what you want rather than on what you don’t want to be.
·        Focus on what can be done rather than on what you cannot do
·        Focus on your strengths and not your weakness
·        Focus on solutions not problems
·        Focus on building people up not tearing them down
·        Focus on making friends rather than getting even with your enemies
·        Focus on being the best you can be and not on trying to copy someone  else
·        Focus on following Jesus rather than fighting the devil
·        Focus on Gods promises rather than life’s circumstances
·        Focus on Gods faithfulness rather that your failure

What you focus on is what you get...
What you magnify captivates your vision


Thursday, December 15, 2011


7 Ways that leaders can make a positive impact on those they lead
Confident leaders know that people, who feel they matter, will. People who feel they don’t matter, won’t.
1.   Develop their skills. Competence means I matter.
2.   Give them authority to make choices. Warren Buffet said, “Delegate almost to the point of abdication.” He owns over 80 businesses. The third richest man in the world (Forbes 2011) tells the CEO’s of his businesses that he doesn’t expect to hear from them more than once a year. He says the business is yours; you run it.
3.   Explain their impact. Create goals, milestones, and deliverables that highlight the results of their efforts, positive or negative.
4.   Tie daily behaviors to purpose. Tell them what their behaviors mean in practical terms. One social enterprise that worked with single mothers brought single mothers into the office. Seeing the people they served gave purpose to daily activities.
5.   Build their security by acting consistently. Secure people dare to courageously act. Secure people trust that you won’t harm them. Insecure people constantly walk on thin ice.
6.   Encouragement is an inexpensive way to reward people but it is most effective when done sincerely and consistently.
7.   Make sure any feedback you give is strength centered and evidence based. In other words don’t just tell them they did well tell them exactly what it was that they did well.

Wednesday, December 14, 2011


7 things you can do today to make a difference to your world

1.    Helping someone who can't repay you: Give yourself away it’s a powerful and freeing choice to decide to deliberately do good to someone who has nothing to give you in return.

2.    Doing one thing that takes you outside your comfort zone: The only way to grow as a person is to stretch yourself and develop muscles that you never knew you had.

3.    Giving grateful thanks for your daily bread: Gratitude is not only a fitting response to the many blessings that we experience in our daily lives but it also opens the door to further blessings; I mean we all know its very hard to give gifts to people who have proved to be ungrateful in the past.

4.    Leaving others a little better than you found them: Make a point of encouraging someone today it is a most powerful thing to build someone up rather that tearing them down or not even acknowledging them at all. Most of us can agree that we would not be where we are today if someone had not taken the time to encourage us with a word “in season”.

5.    Not being afraid to ask for help: nobody is perfect not even you so don’t try to make it on your own. We are made for relationship.

6.    Giving the best time of your day to God... He is after all the source of Love, Joy and Peace. We were all made for relationship with our heavenly father.

7. Doing today what you want to put off till tomorrow: As my mother often reminded me                                  "Procrastination is the thief of time and the grave of opportunity”.

Remember that the seeds you sow today will reap a harvest tomorrow or maybe the next day but whatever happens be sure the harvest will come.

What will you sow today?

Tuesday, December 13, 2011


Seven good reasons to use a Christian life coach
1.   Jesus is the master life coach!

2.   A Christian Coach understands that God created and equipped you for a specific purpose, and that He has promised to guide and empower you to fulfill your unique destiny.


3.   Seeing Yourself as God Sees You Is the Key to Lasting Change

·         A Christian coach helps you to see yourself as God sees you, helps you to rid yourself of limiting beliefs that are getting in the way and supports you to move forward. You think feel and act according to what you believe. Christian life coaching helps you to replace lies you believe about yourself and your circumstances with life-giving Biblical truth.
o   When you change what you believe, your thoughts change.
o   When you change the way you think your feelings change.
o   When you feel differently about things it affects the way you behave.
o   When your behaviour changes, your whole life begins to change.


4.   Christian Life Coaching helps you to define success for you as God sees it rather than how the world sees it.

5.   Christian Life Coaching helps you to operate from a foundation of faith in God.

6.   Christian Life Coaching  enables you to grow and achieve without compromising your dependence on God and Christian values.

7.   Christian Life Coaching is sensitive to the leading and prompting of the Holy Spirit

To book a  life coaching/life planning session with Eric send an email with your contact details to enb159@gmail.com   or ring 01229 208644 for more details.


How you could Use a Christian Life Coach?

·                     to deepen your walk with God
·                     to help you live in line with your values
·                     to help you get through barriers like unforgiveness
·                     to demolish mindsets that hold you back
·                     to communicate more effectively
·                     enhance relationships
·                     strengthen your family
·                     to help you bring balance to your life
·                     talk through difficulties & develop a plan of action
·                     support you to achieve your goals
·                     to help you reach for your destiny


Monday, December 12, 2011

7 steps to setting effective goals for 2012


When you sit down and write out your goals, you move yourself into the top 3% of people in our society. 


So why not launch yourselves into 2012 with something to aim for and look forward to!!



  1. Decide what you really want in each area of your life. Be specific!
  2. Write down that goal for each area clearly and in detail;
  3. Set a specific deadline. If it is a large goal, break it down into sub-goals.
  4. Make a priority list of everything you can think of that you are going to have to do to achieve each specific goal.
  5. Take action immediately on the most important thing you can do on your plan. 
  6. Do something every day that moves you toward the attainment of one or more of your important goals. Maintain the momentum!         
  7. Review Your Goals Daily. Study and review your goals every day to be sure they are still your most important goals. You will find yourself adding goals to your list as time passes. You will also find yourself deleting goals that are no longer as important as you once thought.

Set aside a few hours during the next 2 weeks before the New year arrives to do this exercise and get ready for an exciting journey.

If you need help identifying what you really want or feel that you are stuck and can't move forward then I am offering life coaching /life planning sessions in January>Ring 01229 208644 for more details or email me on enb159@gmail.com